I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. Those who decide it is time to work on themselves are brave. Deciding to ask for help is not always easy, people who chose to do things that are difficult should see this as a strength.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
A mental health professional can teach you skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. When talking to a friend or family member, often they are listening with the intent to respond. In therapy we are listening with the intent to understand and encourage self-exploration. Therapists are objective and non-judgemental, their personal beliefs and opinions are not shared in sessions, therefore creating an environment where you can freely share anything that comes to mind. Therapy is also confidential, which may not always be the case when confiding in a loved one.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication alone cannot solve all issues. Medication helps treat the symptoms. Our work together is designed to explore the root of the issue, dig deep into your behavior and teach strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relational goals. Medication can be effective and is sometimes needed in conjunction with therapy.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs.
How long will it take?
Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time in therapy can vary. How quickly you accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. After all, we only see each other for one session per week. It’s the work you do outside of our sessions that will really help you see your personal growth and development.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
If you are concerned about your relationship, and you would both like to work with me, I would initially work with both of you together. After this work, if one of you would like to continue in individual sessions, I could work with only one of you. It is not helpful to move from individual into couple’s work with the same therapist because of potential trust issues.